Self-esteem develops over time.
And if it is low, it can be high. Here are the things parents can do:
Help your child learn to do things. At every age there are new things for children to learn. Martial arts are one of the best sports you can enroll your child as he will learn all the time while having fun. The basics of learning the right way to train, traditional martial arts kata and self defense are all skills that increase skills. Competence has increased trust and self-esteem.
If you train children to do things, show them and help them in the beginning. Then let them do what they can, even if they make mistakes. Make sure your child has many opportunities to learn, try and feel proud. Don’t make new challenges too easy — or too difficult.
Praise your child, but do it wisely. Of course, it is good to praise the children. Your praise is a way to show that you are proud, too. But research shows that some ways to praise children can actually turn against them. In our martial arts school we use a technique called Lob sandwich. We praise the effort, make a correction and improve the praise after the child practices more.
Here’s how it goes:
Avoid renting too much. Praise that does not feel deserved does not sound true. For example, tell a child that he has almost directly entered the martial arts class when he knows that he does not look hollow and wrong. It’s better to say, ” I know it was a tough class, but we all have days off. I am proud of you for not giving up.”Add a vote of confidence,” tomorrow you will be back on your game.”
Praise pressure rather than fixed qualities. Avoid focusing on results such as the best of the class or solid qualities (such as smart or athletic). This kind of praise can lead children to avoid the challenges that can threaten the good “reputation” they get for the most part praised.
Instead, they offer most of their praise for effort, progress and attitude. For example: “you work hard at this department”, or ,” you’re getting better at these combinations”, or ,” I’m proud of you for practice and going to classes — you really stuck with it. This kind of praise encourages children to strive, work on goals and try. When children do this, they are more likely to succeed.
Be a good role model. If you make an effort to do everyday tasks (such as raking the leaves, preparing a meal, cleaning the dishes or washing the car), give a good example. Your child will learn how to make an effort to do homework, clean his toys or make good positions.
Modeling the right attitude also counts. If you train with your child in martial arts, get enthusiastic about teaching (or at least without growling or complaining), teach your child to do the same.
Forbid harsh criticism. The messages children hear from others about themselves can easily be translated into what they feel for themselves. When children receive negative messages about themselves, they feel bad in their skin and act accordingly.
Focus on the strengths. Pay attention to what your child does well and loves. Make sure your child has opportunities to develop these powers. Cultivating your strengths is better than focusing on your weaknesses if you want to help children feel good and succeed.
We invite you to try an introductory course at the Elite martial arts academy in Taekwondo or Brazilian Jiu Jitsu to improve self-esteem, self-defense, Fitness, strengthening character and much more. We offer courses up to 3 years for adults. Please register here (at the top right of this page – ” try a course for free!”) to get started, and we will contact you to allow you or a member of your family to begin the experience in martial arts!!